Wednesday, March 12, 2008

Lulu Prays That Your Children Will Never Not Get What They Deserve For Reasons Of Gender And Race

Try to imagine this

Your daughter goes to SMK XYZ.
It is a co-ed school. But not always. It started out as a boys school, and 10 years ago, it was converted to a co-ed school.
Every year, the school gives out the "student of the year" award. The award is given to the student who gets the highest score in the final exams.
All the years in its existense, the award had always gone to a boy.
Suddenly, this year, when the final year exa results were tabulated, your daughter scored the highest points.
WOW! Your whole family rejoices!
Then the school calls your home.
Tells you that the award has to be given to be given to a boy because it turns out in the constitution left over from the all-boys day was that the award winner is refered to as a boy. There is no provision for a girl to be the "student of the year".
Your daughter accepts the verdict. She has no choice.
but you cant really blame her, her friends and probably yourself, for feeling that life is kinda unfair, and that merit is merit regardless of gender.

20 comments:

denzook said...

hmmm, very bad example here.....

the parents could sue the skool in this case....

but in other case .....

Anonymous said...

but in other case...merit tu apa?
tiada dalam kamus...pun!

myop101 said...

I think the story don't end there.

The all-boys constitution however stated that if the principal are empowered to award to a girl if he/she so chooses because the founders of the school had a vision that someday this school will turn to co-ed.

Sadly, the principal knows this co-ed school has more boys than girls and not to upset the boys in their development into men, he/she decided to award it to a boy. the principal knows the girls mature faster hence he/she reckon more mature people will give way to those slower to mature.

But ultimately, when the boys grow to become men, they would then come back and tell the poor old principal, stuck with the same shitty pay for the last 10 or so years but with added burden of a larger student population and endless amount of programs initiated by the education department, that it is time for change.

myop101 said...

so do you ever wonder why your daughter accepted the verdict? it is also not a matter of no choice.

you see, a teacher came and consoled your daughter. she said,"I know you won fair and square. I know you put in the effort and you deserve winning. On the principal's action, I can't defend him/her stand. But in our hearts, we know who is the best.

Don't let your effort die there. There are always two side to the coin. You know the boys are immature. Educate them, work with them, help them to realise their potentials. It will take long time, there might be a need for other girls to work after you. But you should make the first step. Who is to know, someday the boys will be your best pals and compatriots for life?"

So your daughter, knowing it is unfair, accepted that for the greater good, she bows out in hope she can work towards creating fairness for others.

Someday, a song will be sung, of a selfless hero who made that first step. She choose to do what others did not expect of her because she knows, the path to change can only succeed if the boys together with the girls convince the principal that they are ready.

When that day comes, the boys and girls will cheer for the best regardless if it is a girl or boy because in their heart, they are proud to be called XYZians.

Anonymous said...

Or maybe the principal wants it to be converted back to a boys school. So he thought "maybe if I do this, the next time, the boy will score the highest points."
And we will all return to the good old days, a boys school. Hmmm ....

Anonymous said...

alluding to situation in perak?
lulu, its ok. this is just the beginning. it takes time to dismantle archaic rules formulated decades ago. people will come to accept changes, however radical, in due course if its equitable and beneficial.

Anonymous said...

Since my daughter plans to stick around in the school for awhile, she told me that she wud bite her lip this time.

She knew real Constitutions cannot be changed overnite (unlike meaningless M'sian constitutions by BN evil-doers).

She plans to lobby this change in the months ahead. To present the case to all quarters allowing for gentle persuasion and logic.

I m quite certain she will succeed, I m very sure she will be made "Student of the Year" in the next year or 2.

Perhaps my daughter & I are naive. But we will try. Becoz we believe in change. One day at a time..

Anonymous said...

I am a Chinese woman but many times i am sick of DAP attitude - very very parochial and yet accuse others of being so. You want change - then show maturity, be able to rise above tricky situations rather than score points. The reality in Malaysia is that change cannot come without the active participation of the Malays and you have to gives them confidence to work with DAP. Don't keep score but show genuine give and take spirit. Otherwise from day one, we already wasted our effort in breaking the grip of BN.

Anonymous said...

Laws and rules are made by man, not God, and thus can be changed by man. SMK XYZ's constitution was also made by man, and hence can be changed provided the people concerned have the will and the inclination

Anonymous said...

No quite. What happened is the girl TEAM won by a score of 31-28. But the top scoring girl was not the one called on stage to receive the prize. So she decided to cry and stay at home and not take a medal and not be a team player and not support her team mates.

I pray you don't teach your daughter to be that too.

We (M+C+I+O) did not vote for a party lah, we voted against BN.

purpleflower said...

actually, i think you need to clarify more facts:

1. you as a parent knew of this rule for it being boys even before you enrolled your daughter in the school (or should have known since the rules were available for all at the point of enrollment; oh! then again maybe you didn't read it bcos you never expected that your daughter would top the school).

2. you tell your daughter not to go for the award ceremony since your relatives don't like the fact that a boy will be getting the award.

pf

team bsg said...

strategy my friend , its strategy we need , not emotions

kaki.ayam said...

myop01, that was some good story telling with a good twist and obvious moral teaching.

lulu, personally i have absolutely no issue with the MB being a malay. To me, that's ok, and most chinese in perak will be able to accept that, as it is. They have been governed by a Malay MB for the past 50 years, so what difference will that make? Having a malay mb serve a lot of purposes at this critical junction.

Now, what baffles me is this -
http://www.nst.com.my/Current_News/NST/Wednesday/NewsBreak/20080312175247/Article/index_html

"...In his personal opinion, he said the deputy should also be a Malay Muslim as the person would be assisting the Menteri Besar on his duties during his absence..."

This is sad and I find it very ridiculous.

Death Note said...

If you are alluding to the situation in Perak...

the girls protest... and the principal decides to give the award to neither boys nor girls cause they don't play along.

IN THE END, AWARD TO THE TRANSVETITES!!!!!!



If this is just a story by itself...
The girl sneak into the school and set fire on it.
IF I CAN'T HAVE IT NOBODY WILL!!!

Anonymous said...

So what do you want? Lulu? Why are you so narrow minded? What do you know how the school system works?

Is this a pariah school?

Well! If I am the principal, she will get the best student award(Study), and the boy will get the best all-round student award if he is the best in study and sport, and there are awards for individual subject.

If the school is biased in awarding, then rectify the award system. Otherwise sack the principal or change to another school which practices fair award system

Death Note said...

anonymous...

you are all talk.
why don't you go ahead and remove the sultan. how can the student sack the teacher.

Anonymous said...

The girl sneak into the school and set fire on it--- That was exactly what happened in the French, Chinese and Russian Revolutions

Anonymous said...

Be patient. Change can't happen too fast. Otherwise it's called a Revolution. Revolutions are messy. Change can only happen slowly. Like water must boil slowly..

bibliobibuli said...

you are one clever blogger, Lulu. great parable.

Bunnies said...

Aiyah.. it doesnt matter la. It is just a prize giving thing. Next time la.. Sure got chance one. Everything cannot change overnight mah.. One thing at a time... than baru steady mah...

My advise to the girl, make sure you continue to shine and shine bright gurl! One day, it will just force those blind in the eyes but not in the heart to see that their rules does not apply anymore and will change it.

My advise to the parents is that to look beyond this gender issue.. Just continue to nurture and bring up your daughter to the best of your abilities. People can see a gem in the making one...