Tuesday, October 23, 2007

Lulu Doesn't Want The Little Children To Suffer Anymore

I think most of you who read this blog are parents. God has blessed you with children to love and to raise.
I'm not a parent. But over the years, I've worked and played with children. Church kids, friend's kids, squatter kids and neighbour's kids, and I enjoy it very much.

The past few days, I feel very saddened to see these type of news in the papers.

On Saturday it was
Boy dies in brutal attack
KAPAR: A seven-year-old boy died after being stabbed four times in Taman Perangsang for allegedly disturbing chicken and turkeys belonging to a 15-year-old boy.
Police arrested the assailant, believed to be a student of a religious school, shortly after the attack on Mohd Khairulnizam Riza Azmi, a Year One pupil of SK Abdul Samad in Kapar, yesterday afternoon

Today, I read that
Schoolboy dies in scuffle
BAGAN SERAI: A scuffle between two students of SMK Bagan Serai, believed to be over a stolen pen, ended with one of them getting killed.
Remove Class student Loh Wei Kuan, 13, was rushed to the Bagan Serai health clinic about 500m away from the school after the 12.35pm incident yesterday but was pronounced dead upon arrival.

I feel very sad that children are killed by children, those not much older than themselves.
For the child who murdered, he bears this burden of guilt and regret for the rest of his life.
One of the children I teach comes from an underprivileged background. He's a very, very bright child. Being brought up by his Indonesian parents in a squatter area, his command of English and his determination to succeed amazes me. But he has a problem with managing his anger. On most days, he is happy like sunshine, but there are moments where he gets angry about something or someone, and he retaliates by sulking [which I could live with] or pushing/attempting to get even with the other child. I have told him, he has great potential and a very bright future, but he has to manage his temper. Five seconds of fury could cost him his entire future.

How are you bringing up your child?
Do you teach him how to manage his anger?
Is he taught consequences, and things that you would regret and can never undo?

With children, be a believer of quantity time. Quality time is not a concept that they can understand. They only recognise if you were there. Or not.
Where are you going tonight? I hope it's home to your kids.
What are you doing this weekend? I hope it will be something which includes your kids.

Proverbs 13:24 He who spares the rod hates his son,
but he who loves him is careful to discipline him


Shawn Tan said...

Like you said, maybe it's because too many parents are sparing the rod. I think it's becoming a trend and a belief that physical discipline is a bad thing. I see this in my sister, who doesn't belief in using the cane. While I believe that hitting a child out of anger is PURE EVIL, physical discipline has it's role.

It's a good thing that guns are not so prevalent in M'sia. Over here in the UK, there has been a string of gun crimes involving kids. But a knife can just be as deadly. Kids need to learn that some actions have lethal consequences.

Anonymous said...

Victim of the Systems?
Environment is similar during the stage of embryo stages of all the kids before they were born. So, all baby are quite similar.

The environment after birth varies from kid to kid. Social systems including the home and school are fundamental to all these variations. Did the society or the government tried to safeguard the stability and to look at the fundamentals?

The fundamental is mother or someone should have more time - quantity as well as quality wise to see that these kids are properly guided to become responsible party within a social. The fundamental are the growing environment as well as a good target to follow.

Unless the country is poor that all people have to work. Otherwise, allowing sufficient parentalship is essential. Therefore, the system should see that one parent working should get sufficient income for a family and sufficient assistance be available to help the parents in guiding the kids. Education should head for establishing the right images of how to be a proper party in the society, starting from oneself to the family and to the society with Honesty and Responsibility and creditability. Key figures - government officials, should be casted by their quality and not by power or wealth.

Having Quality People should be the target of Social Development and not to be by any Economical Growth Index!!

Anonymous said...

"Proverbs 13:24 He who spares the rod hates his son,
but he who loves him is careful to discipline him"

That's an Universal Truth, not just a Christian proverb. But the umnoputras had to prove their superior brilliance from the early seventies by their manja manja (mollycoddling)approach by abolishing corporal punishment in schools. Trying to fix something that ain't broke has a consequence to be later reaped.


Pearls said...

As a parent, I can tell you that it is not easy to be one. There will always be this nagging feeling inside you asking if you have done what is right or needs to be done, or have you been too harsh or too lenient. As for me, I believe the physical disciplining part has to be done early and by the time the child reaches 6 years of age, physical disciplining will have to be cut back.. It is time to reason and talk. A lot of talking and spending time with the child is what makes a good parent.

As for children today, I believe they are in such a lousy state because of parenting skills. I strongly believe the western way of bringing up children has done more harm than good. All this no physical disciplining and only enforce the positive points are just crap!

We all know that physical disciplining is needed to instill a certain amount of fear in children. Such fear is crucial to ensure that the child will not get out of hands. Oh yes, I have seen children beating up their parents just because they, the children are denied of their wishes. These children can range from 2-42!! It may seem barbaric but at the end of the day, even GOD do yeild the rod at us and we do have some form of fear for GOD.